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WhatsOK hears from teens and young adults reaching for help, information and support for their concerns and questions about safe sexual behaviors, feelings and thoughts. Sometimes their questions are about their own situation, like wondering if something they did or think about is “normal” or even legal. Other times, they ask how to help a friend or how to talk about something that happened to them, like being sexually abused.
This blog shares answers to common questions and some real questions and experiences from teens and young adults who have reached out. Everything here is shared with permission, and all names have been changed for anonymity.
Everyone’s situation is unique, and everyone deserves respect and accurate information for their personal situation. If you have questions about something you’ve experienced or something you’re thinking or feeling about sexual interests and behaviors, reach out to our free, confidential helpline.
How will I know when my porn use has become a problem?
Like with so many things, defining a “problem” is really personal. So the best way to determine whether something is a problem for you is to ask yourself a few questions. Here’s how we help people navigate this issue.
I can’t stop watching CSAM! What is wrong with me?
People watch CSAM for different reasons. Like with most things in life, it’s complicated. And not everyone who views CSAM is necessarily sexually attracted to children, although some are. Here are a few of the reasons people tell us they have watched it.
How do I know if my relationship is healthy?
The crucial features of any healthy relationship are: open communication, trust, respect, honesty, an equal balance of power, and appropriate physical and emotional boundaries.
Wondering about sexual thoughts involving younger children
If you are concerned about your sexual thoughts and behaviors towards significantly younger children, we encourage you to answer these questions honestly.